How to change from "glass half empty" to "glass half full"

This time we will tackle how to deal with the first feel bad item in the Feel Bad Zone.

When you look at something (opportunity, job to do, etc.) do you consistently see the good in it; or do you see only the bad?

If you are already a glass half full person - congratulations - you are an optimist - well done.

If you believe you are a glass half empty person, then you are considered to be a pessimist by nature. Sorry to hear that!

If you are constantly pessimistic you KNOW that nothing seems to turn out right. Nothing seems to come up to scratch for you.

You are never satisfied. There always seems to be a problem with everything. There is always something wrong with the meal you are served with at ANY restaurant you visit. There's always too much to do - how can you possibly fit it all in? Problems seem to surround you.

I call this sort of behaviour "Perception Deception". It has a lot to do with your attitude. It is simply your interpretation of reality as a working function of your attitude. You see, what you may be seeing as a problem, someone else will see it as an opportunity - you lose!

Your negative (pessimistic) outlook to life may be affecting you in so many ways - financial, health, employment opportunities, family and romance to name just a few.

I'll give you a great example. Did Sir Richard Branson originally think that the idea of getting into the already crowded market of retail music was just too hard, had too much competition, and would probably fail anyway, so why bother? Or did he adopt a glass half full attitude and believed he saw an opportunity to out compete his competition? I guess you know the answer to that one!

THE GOOD NEWS.

The glass half empty attitude to life is just like all attitudes - it is learned, and, as such, it can be unlearned. This attitude, through constant repetition, has also become a bad habit. Bad habits can be broken and be replaced with good habits.

How did you learn it? Most likely by adopting very negative self-talk (negative thinking) at some stage. Also have a good look at your friends, relatives and co-workers that you see on a regular basis - how do they talk and act? Circumstances you say? Sorry, that just won't wash. You are responsible for you. Your attitude to your circumstances is well and truly under your very direct control. The colored glasses that you see yourself and your life through are tinted entirely by YOU!

THE CURE.

Start by constantly monitoring your thoughts. Put simply; are they nice thoughts, or are they horrible, discouraging thoughts? The trick is to start deliberately noticing all the great things that surround you. This is called pivoting your thoughts.

Try making a physical pen and paper list. Writing things down can carry a lot more weight subconsciously. What pleases you? What brings you joy? Why? Where do you like to visit? What wonderful holidays have you had? Write them down. All the GOOD stuff.

Make a list of all the wonderful inventions that have made your life so much easier. Believe it or not, each one of those inventions started as a positive, constructive thought in someones mind.

Positive affirmations are a brilliant way to start. Used daily they help to re-program your thoughts into more positive and constructive channels. Just Google "positive affirmations" and go for it.

The world, yes, your world as well, is crammed full of positive, wonderful things. Good things happen all the time. People get rich everyday. Switch off the television news - they make a living reporting mostly BAD and depressing news. It's nice to be informed - but not overwhelmed.

All journeys start with the first step. I've given you some ideas to start. The rest is now up to you.

Travel well!

How to feel good - part 2.

Last time we chatted about the Feel Bad Zone.

I gave you some contrast by describing in point form what being in the Feel Bad Zone is all about. It's a nasty place! As I said then, if you find yourself domiciled in any or some of those situations - you need to get out of there - real quick.

In future posts I will go into some detail about how to extricate yourself from each and every one of those situations I described.

Today is all about - the Feel Good Zone.

Life is all about feeling good. It's where you need to be ALL the time.

Why?

Simply - it's not only a happy place, but also, so much more! As I said last time, just try living life in the Feel Bad Zone and you will start longing for the Feel Good Zone - guaranteed!

Besides, feeling good will remove resistance from your personality (opens the door) so that all the good things (your personal desires) are able to enter into your life. It's called invoking the Law of Allowing.

See if you relate to any, some, or all of these.

The Feel Good Zone:

Your glass is always half full.
You live your life with passion - you go for it.
You are optimistic - the future looks good.
You are enthusiastic and eager - nothing is too much trouble.
You love yourself, you are loved, and you give love freely.
You seek and love freedom.
You love and respect animals.
You are grateful - you show appreciation.
A feeling of joy dominates your life.
You are an empowered person - you KNOW you can do it - and by god - you will!
You enjoy gaining knowledge.
You deeply understand that abundance is all around you and it is all available to you.
You learn from your mistakes.
You are just happy - smiling comes naturally.
Your life is one of contentment.
You proudly accept responsibility for yourself and your actions.
You have faith that all is for a higher purpose.
You constantly seek opportunities to improve yourself and your situation.
You get enjoyment and satisfaction from helping others - you are service oriented.
You look after yourself - both physically and mentally.
You seek peace and shun violence.
You laugh freely and often.

Love is all around you. Beauty is all around you. Abundance is all around you. Happiness is everywhere. Laughter abounds, All knowledge is available to you. Peace and joy are your birthright. We all live for a higher purpose!

YOU FEEL GOOD!

Half full?

Your glass is overflowing!

Open your eyes.

Look for something beautiful. Perhaps a flower? focus on how beautiful it is. Soon you will notice something else that has beauty. Then something else. Then something else. Then something else. Then something else.

And as you notice how beauty seems to be everywhere it starts to become a part of you life. It's filling your thoughts. Beauty is revealing itself and coming to you. Your mind has become a magnet for beauty.

It's called the Law of Attraction.

Use it!

Next time - how to pivot those "feel bads" into "feel goods".

How to feel good - Part One.

Life is all about getting into, and staying in, the Feel Good Zone.

Don't believe me?

Try living your life outside the Feel Good Zone. Go on! Be my guest. It's called living in the Feel Bad Zone.

Let's get some contrast happening here.

The Feel Bad Zone:

Your glass is always half empty.
You believe money is the root of all evil.
You know that people only get rich because they got lucky.
Your bored.
Your angry.
Your disappointed.
You worry all the time.
You never seem to have enough money.
Everything seems to go wrong for you.
Good things only happen to other people.
You blame everyone and everything else for YOUR failures.
You feel unworthy - you don't deserve success.
You always feel depressed.
You are frightened - especially of change.
You feel overwhelmed - how can you possibly get everything done.
You hate black people, white people, rich people, basically anyone different to you.
Your always feeling frustrated.
Little things constantly irritate you.
You feel guilty.
You're a pessimist.
You despair at the state of the world.
You are always the impatient one in the queue.
You feel powerless to change yourself or your situation.
You are jealous of other people.
You lie frequently.
You would love to get revenge on those bastards for what they did to you.
You don't like the company of other people.
You are full of grief - someone that you loved has recently died and you can't get over it.

Now that's all bad - real bad! If you identify with any, some or all of these feelings, meaning, they are part of your everyday life, you are offering resistance.

Resistance?

How can you let the good stuff in if you keep focusing on the bad stuff?

It's that simple!

By always focusing your thoughts and hence your life on the opposite of what would make you feel good, all you end up getting is more of what makes you feel bad (The Law of Attraction).

Feeling jealous doesn't make you feel good.
Feeling anger doesn't make you feel good.
Having the wrong attitude to money doesn't make you feel good.
Constantly becoming irritated by the smallest of things doesn't make you feel good.

See what I mean?

When you are spending time thinking and focusing on feel bad things you are taking valuable time away from thinking and focusing on all the good things - the feeling good things.

And when you learn to change or "pivot" your thinking towards all the feel good ways of thinking and living - resistance falls away - you start to allow all the good things into your life. In fact, everything you have ever desired becomes available to you. You have opened the door.

You have stopped blocking and started allowing.

Next time - how to feel good - part 2.